Let Michael Decide

Unlike O-Dub, I’m going to come right out and say that I think Terry Schiavo should be allowed to die. More correctly, Terry’s husband, Michael, should be free to exercise his rights as a husband and legal guardian and have her feeding tube removed immediately. Majikthise has a wonderfully informed breakdown of some of the issues involved in this case, but at the core we’re dealing with the powers recognized by the state as it regards marriage. Michael and Terry were married and absent any documentation of Terry’s will (such as a living will), Michael has the right to make her decisions. Simple. Cut. Dry.

Atrios is urging everyone in his readership to start a living will and that’s a good first step, documenting your wishes. The second, logical step would be to discuss this issue with your family. One of the first, serious discussions I had with my folks after I married Jenn was the fact that neither of us wanted to live by means of a respirator, feeding tube or any other machine. If our lives were in some manner of suspended animation due to brain trauma, coma or severe injury then they would have to accept our fate and let us die.

If only the Terry Schiavo’s parents were likewise informed. If only Michael and Terry had made their feelings known either verbally or on paper to their parents. If only they could rewind time. But they can’t and the system we have in place, the imperfect solution, but the solution nonetheless, is to let Michael decide. Michael and Terry agreed to “for better or for worse” and I can’t see how invalidating and postponing Michael’s wishes for Terry does anything to aid anyone involved.

My parents didn’t like my attitude about what might happen to me (hopefully not). I listened to their concerns and their point of view, but this is my decision. My wife and I understand what we will do should we encounter this situation in the future.

What happens to me when I die is every bit as important to me as how and when we brought children into this world. Every bit as personal, private and sacred. I would not substitute anyone else’s judgement or word over that of myself or my spouse. Marriage is the contract, the institution that grants Jenn & I this privelege over and between one another.

Our marriage means that we get to decide our own fate whether or not our parents, our children (child, currently – hi Rae Rae), neighbors, church, state and federal government, or our employers agree or disagree. Our choices are our choices and ours alone.

It’s time America realizes that we’ve intruded into the most private and powerful part of the Schiavo’s marriage, their promises to one another, their vows. It’s time we step back from that precipice and let Michael decide. It’s what Terry wanted.

9 thoughts on “Let Michael Decide

  1. Even crazy winger Monica Crowley drifted off her GOP talking points and said Terry should be allowed to die. Her husband’s attorney was really eloquent on TV today.

    I like your blog a lot and link to it on mine, just stopped by to say hi.

  2. Thanks for the kind words about my blog, Jane. I’m glad to hear about the link and the reaction of most of the mainstream to this Schiavo story.

  3. For Typing Out Loud

    Having just recently blogged about the Schiavo case a few days ago, I’m hesitant to do it again, so I’ll wade back in with another personal observation: my mother-in-law should be blogging. She has been a hospice nurse for 20 years and I think the b…

  4. Vincent Schwartz says:

    I have been watching this very close having exp. this vary thing in my family.I had a cousin who had been in a vegitative state for years after being assaulted and his throat sliced.Those of us that were close to him could tell his torture of being kept alive by feeding tubes.The right to die was granted by the court and his feeding tubes removed,at which time he became very peaceful and continude to be at peace until the end came he passed nine days later.I do not believe it is right to sentance someone to a life of torture and pain rather than be at peace.

  5. Thanks for sharing the story about your cousin, Vincent. I know that this Schiavo ordeal is hard on all of her relatives and I hope that they come, in time, to a view like your own. Eventually, Terry will be at peace.

  6. Rest in Peace, Terri Schiavo

    Just heard the news that Terri Schiavo has passed through some office cross-talk and confirmed the news on CNN.com & BuzzMachine. My thoughts and prayers are with her family and friends. They’ve got the most healing to do considering how contentious…

  7. Bush goes ballistic about other countries being evil and dangerous, because they have weapons of mass destruction. But, he insists on building up even a more deadly supply of nuclear arms right here in the US. What do you think? Why has bush turned our country from a country of hope and prosperity to a country of belligerence and fear.
    If ever there was ever a time in our nation’s history that called for a change, this is it!
    The more people that the government puts in jails, the safer we are told to think we are. The real terrorists are wherever they are, but they aren’t living in a country with bars on the windows. We are.

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